The Wedding : Sheilda & Kelvin
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Just last weekend, I’ve finished covering for my make-up artist’s, Sheilda’s wedding event. Of course it was very tiring and it got me thinking about a lot of many things – career, life, meaning to everything… bla bla bla – the whole works. But if anything, I made sure I exhausted myself to the max while running up and down and making sure I have every detail recorded in picture, mainly because I do not want to be bothered with such troubling questions while at work. I was her eyes elsewhere while she was busy with her own setups, and she’ll want to see what I saw while she couldn’t be there.
This wedding was supposed to be held later in the year, but due to a certain unforseen circumstance on the groom’s side of the family – his mother passed away unexpectedly due to medical and health complications that came quite suddenly – traditional Chinese Hokkien customs demands that within the 100 days of the deceased’s passing, should any of the immediate family members wants to get married – they should do so within that 100 days of his/her departed parent. If not, they’ll have to wait the next 3 years before they can ever be united in marriage.
Three years is a long wait… and with this, they immediately set to stage what was needed to be done before those 100 days were up. Initially, there were a lot of rushing about to get the preparations done – especially since it was also a peak season for lots of other couples getting married at the end of the year (We consider it as the end of the year before the coming of the Chinese New Year according to Chinese traditional calendar) due to favorable astrological predictions by the seers. I could only imagine the kind of grief that the groom must be going through while having to put up a brave front for this. When my grannie passed away, I must have cried for weeks at end. I dared not disturb her during those days and at some time, I was even unsure if she’d want me to cover her wedding since she never officially asked me to. Sometimes being friends can get a bit confusing too. But in the end, she made it clear that her decision was to have me do so. And as a friend, you just can’t let them down, no matter what. Which brings me to the next thing : Read the rest of this entry »
